Stop Blaming Your Neighbor!

This is not the typical type of thing you read from me. But I guess a new flavor might interest you a bit.

“Your life is what you make it. So, don’t blame others when you screw up!”

— Anonymous

I wasn’t born from a silver spoon. In fact, I was born from a very poor family.

My dad was just 19 yrs. old when I was born. My mom was 17 yrs. old at that time. No job, no college degree, no money, nothing at all!

They lived with my mother’s family. They lived with my mom’s two younger brothers, my grandma and grandpa in one very tiny space. Basically, four adults, two kids and one new born baby living in a three by two meter room.

We were very poor, but, we never blamed anyone nor the government for that.

The Fact

Truth of the matter is that the shithole you’re in now, is a product of your choice some time ago.

My dad getting my mom pregnant was on him. As a consequence, they went through a terrible storm in life.

If you’re suffering from poverty, from sadness, from frustrations, and all other mess that you’re experiencing, the truth is, you brought that to yourself!

I’ve read from a friend’s post that the saying, “If you’re born poor, that’s not your fault. But, if you die poor, that’s entirely on you.” is not completely true coz’ according to someone, people are influenced with their environment and given that poor people are exposed to poor environment, their mindset is wired to stay poor.

Honestly, I think this is very pathetic! This is just an excuse to get away with laziness and lack of courage to strive for more.

Trust me on this, I’m a product of a very poor family, but I chose not to stay there. I’m very proud of my parents for giving us courage to not stay there. If we did it, I don’t think other people can’t.

Don’t make your current situation an excuse to not move forward. Move your ass and do the hard work!

The Pandemic

2020 has been full of crap. COVID is definitely the biggest.

In the Philippines, the government received a lot of bad comments, hate speeches, and a whole set of bad mouthing from administration critics.

I think this is the typical “crab mentality”. Everyone has something to say. Everyone is trying to blame the government for the shit hole they’re in.

They don’t have food on the table, it’s the government’s fault. If they can’t go to work coz’ of the lockdown, it’s the government’s fault. If they don’t have enough money left, it’s the government’s fault.

I think there is something so wrong with this mentality.

I’m not a pro administration nor an anti administration. I believe that if you want progress, you’ll have start with yourself.

Its nobodies fault that you screwed up, its yours and yours alone!

I think the pandemic started long before COVID. It started when we decided to critic others rather than put the blame to our selves.

Everybody is a Know It All

During the Manila bay rehabilitation a lot of protesters went out and shouted “Save Manila Bay!”, I wonder where they were when Manila Bay was filled with trash and stinking, slowly dying?

After the typhoon, the hashtag #nasaanangpangulo was trending. I just don’t get this madness. Do you expect the president to jump in the middle of the storm?

Honestly? Do you really think it’s logical?

Everybody want’s to be heard. Everybody has something to say to the government, to their fellow Filipino, to their neighbors.

Can you just mind your own business? Try to check yourself and see where you at and instead of bubbling non-sense, maybe you can try and help.

What frustrates me more is that this type of response is not only for the current administration. Let me bring you back EDSA 1, to EDSA 2, let’s not hope there will be EDSA 3.

What Am I Trying to Say Here?

We are notorious at blaming others!

We want things done, but we don’t do it ourselves. We want something but doesn’t want to put on the hard work to get it.

We are stuck in an idea that it’s someone else’ fault! Its always someone’s fault coz’ we’re born poor, we don’t have the resources, we don’t have the skills, we don’t have anything.

What if instead of saying I don’t have the skills, say “where can I learn the necessary skills?. What if instead of saying, “I don’t have the capital.” say, “how can I come up with the capital?”

Get Out from that Shit Hole

“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.”

— Robert Anthony

No truer words are ever spoken. Stop blaming others. Stop blaming the government. Stop blaming your neighbor. Start blaming you!

A friend of mine was scammed in a business for over seven hundred thousand pesos. She was so devastated. Every time we talked, she doesn’t stop talking about how bad the situation is, how her business partner manipulated her, how she was taken advantage of.

After some time of listening to her, I lovingly said, “You can’t put all the blame to your partner. You let that happen.”

Sometimes we need to realize that there are things that’s out of our control, the weather, stocks, the people around us.

However, we can always control ourselves, the way we think, the way we respond, the way we speak, our view of the situation.

“The same wind blows on us all; the winds of disaster, opportunity and change. Therefore, it is not the blowing of the wind, but the setting of the sails that will determine our direction in life.”

— Jim Rohn

My favorite quote from a legend.

Change your mind. Change your perspective. Strive to become better. Don’t wait for things to happen, rather, make things happen.

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Paul Rodriguez

Paul Rodriguez


Co-Founder of Aquila Softwares, Product Manager & a Polymath